Understanding the Meaning of Coercive Control: What You Need to Know

Written By Fiona Bool

Coercive control is a term that has gained more visibility in recent years, yet many still misunderstand its implications. For survivors of domestic abuse, professionals in the workplace, friends, family, peers, recognising the signs of coercive control is not only vital for safety but also for fostering environments of understanding, support and resilience. 

In this blog post, we’ll break down what coercive control means, the signs to look out for, and why it’s crucial for communities both in and out of the workplace to take this issue seriously. 

What is Coercive Control?

Coercive control refers to a pattern of behaviours used by one person to dominate and manipulate another in a relationship. Unlike physical violence, coercive control is often subtle and insidious, making it harder to identify. 

This form of abuse can include: 

  • Isolation: preventing contact with friends, family or support networks

  • Control over daily life: monitoring movements, controlling finance, or dictating clothing and appearance

  • Emotional manipulation: using threats, humiliation, or guilt to assert dominance

  • Surveillance: constantly checking phone messages, social media or tracking location .

The goal of coercive control is to erode the victim’s autonomy, leaving them dependent on their abuser and feeling unable to leave. 

Recognising the Signs of Coercive Control

For survivors, understanding the signs is the first step to regaining autonomy. For professionals, spotting these signs in colleagues or clients can help create safe spaces for disclosure and support. 

Key indicators of coercive control include:

  • Sudden withdrawal from social interactions

  • A noticeable lack of access to money or resources

  • Reluctance to make decisions without seeking approval

  • Changes in confidence or self-esteem

  • Frequent phone calls or messages from a partner checking their whereabouts

It’s essential to approach these signs with sensitivity, as survivors may not recognise they’re experiencing abuse, or may fear speaking out. 

Why Workplaces Must Take Coercive Control Seriously

Domestic abuse doesn’t stay at home - it impacts workplaces too. From decreased productivity to increased absenteeism and event safety concerns, the ripple effects of coercive control are far-reaching. 

Here’s how workplaces can make a difference: 

  1. Raise Awareness: Educate employees on the signs of coercive control and its impact on individuals and teams

  2. Create Safe Spaces: Foster a culture where employees feel safe seeking help without fear of judgment

  3. Provide Training: Equip leaders and teams with the knowledge to recognise and respond appropriately to signs of domestic abuse. 

This is where organisations like Alpha Vesta and the J9 Initiative step in. Their comprehensive training programmes empower workplaces to build awareness, develop robust support systems and contribute to the fight against domestic abuse. 

A Call to Action: Supporting Survivors Through Training and Awareness

Survivors of domestic abuse deserve workplaces that champion their resilience and support their recovery. For professionals, understanding coercive control is an essential skill - not just for supporting survivors but also for creating compassionate and informed teams. 

If you’re ready to learn more or want to bring life-changing training to your organisation, explore the Alpha Vesta J9 Training Programme. Together, we can break the cycle of abuse and create environments where survivors feel safe to thrive. 

Let’s Connect

Have questions or want to share your thoughts? Let’s discuss how we can collectively raise awareness and make a difference. Connect with me, or explore working with Alpha Vesta for more information about creating safe and supportive spaces for survivors and victims of domestic abuse.

Alpha Vesta: J9 Initiative

Support Services for Survivors + Victims

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, there are people and organisations ready to help: 

National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK)

Refuge

Women’s Aid

Galop (Support for LGBTQ+ Survivors)

  • National helpline for LGBTQ+ individuals experiencing abuse

  • Call: 0800 999 5428

  • www.galop.org.uk

Next Chapter (Essex)

RESPECT Men’s Advice Line

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